Dorothy W. “Dotty” Reeder

November 21, 1941 - April 18, 2019

Dorothy W. “Dotty” Reeder, age 77, of Newark, DE, passed away on Thursday, April 18, 2019.

Born in Wilmington, DE on November 21, 1941, she was a daughter of the late Earl and Helen (Ehart) Wilson. 

Dotty graduated from Pierre S. DuPont High School in Wilmington, Delaware and then attended the University of Delaware, where she met and fell in love with her husband.  A military spouse, Dotty set up homes in several bases in the Southeast and Gulf Coast.  Returning to Delaware, she and her husband raised a family and launched two small businesses: the Drummond Ale House and for the last twenty-five years, Delaware Defensive Driving, Inc. 

Dotty was a loving and active parent involved as a PTA member and homeroom mother, Sunday school teacher, Girl Scout leader, cheerleading coach with the Capitol Trail Football League, and supporter and volunteer for Newark National Little League. 

With her winning smile and energetic personality, Dotty participated in local activities including hiking in White Clay Creek State Park and other area trails as well as numerous group exercise classes.  She was an avid reader, expert crossword puzzler, gardener, accomplished cook and meticulous homemaker.  Always with a song in her heart and a beautiful singing voice, Dotty was happiest with her music whether playing the organ, attending dinner theater or a Broadway show, or enjoying her eclectic playlist at home. 

Dotty is survived by her loving husband of 58 years, Robert “Bob” Paul Reeder; daughter, Kimberly Reeder; son, Michael Reeder; sister, Joan Aivalotis and husband Daryl. 

A visitation for family and friends will be held from 2 pm until 3pm on Wednesday, April 24, 2019, at Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Home, 121 West Park Place, Newark, DE, where a funeral service will begin at 3 pm.  Interment will be held privately at a later date in Delaware Veterans Memorial Cemetery.

Flowers are greatly appreciated or in lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in Dotty’s memory to the Delaware State Parks Trust Fund at, to help preserve natural, cultural and historical areas.


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13 Condolences for Dorothy W. “Dotty” Reeder

  • Bob and family,

    So sad to hear of Dotty’s passing. We certainly had some fun times at U of D and she was an ideal roommate. Your wedding was one of my many memorable events, cannot believe it was 58 years ago. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.


  • So sorry to hear of Mama Dots passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time. I have nothing but fond memories of her and all the kindness she showed me while I was in Delaware.

  • Sorry to hear of Dottys passing–Nothing but fond memories–Deepest Sympathy-Jim

  • Bob, Kim, and Mike, I can’t tell you how much I appreciated your wife and mother. When the two of you gave me the opportunity to have my own business, Dottie was instrumental in creating an enviroment for a seamless transition from Polly Drummond Ale House to McGlynns Pub. I look back on that time with feelings of friendship and warmth for her. I know this is a time of great sadness for your family and she will be sorely missed by all who had the great pleasure of knowing her. I am forevergrateful to her and you Bob. May God bless Dottie Reeder.

  • So sorry for your Bob, our prayers are with your family.

  • Bob, very sad to hear of Dot’s passing. She was a very fine person.

  • I was very sad to hear of Dotty’s passing. I have very fond memories of my days working for Dotty and Bob at the Drummond Ale House. So sorry to the Reeder family for your loss.

  • In remembrance of a wonderfully kind woman. I will always be grateful for the graciousness and giving you showed to my family. You made a difference in many lives to include my own. May you rest in heaven

  • I am sorry! Always tough to lose someone you really love.🔐❤️

  • I am so very sorry for the loss of your wonderful wife and mother. She was always so sweet to me when I would go over to your house way back in high school. She will forever be loving all of you from Heaven above. Prayers for comfort to you all to ease your grief. With fond memories Grace

  • To the Reeder family,
    I am very sorry to hear of the passing of Mrs. Reeder. I appreciate everything she and your family did for our family in our time of need. I will always remember her as a kind but strong lady. I will never forget her kindness and spirit.

    God bless,

    Derrick May

  • Bob, Kim and Mike,

    I’m very sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you all at what I’m sure is such a difficult time. She was always so kind to me.


  • Dear Bobby, Kim, Mike, Joan and Daryl, Kenny and I are so very saddened by Dottie’s death. To me she will always look the same. That beautiful face, her huge smile, her huge loving heart. Her face just beamed when she smiled. We can only barely imagine how it must feel to lose someone so dear as a beloved spouse. Please know you will remain in our thoughts and prayers. With loving sympathy, Bonnie and Kenny