Pamela J. “Pam” Matthews

August 12, 1971 - July 26, 2019

Pamela J. “Pam” Matthews, age 47, of New Castle, DE, passed away on Friday, July 26, 2019.

Born in Wilmington, DE, on August 12, 1971, she was a daughter of the late Robert E. and Lynn E. (West) Matthews. Pam worked as a Business Operations Analyst for Chase for many years. She loved spending quality time with friends and family. Pam enjoyed shopping, picking fruit at Linvilla Orchards, and caring for her beloved pets. Pam also loved cooking and baking, often making tasty treats for her family. She loved to laugh, and traveling to South Carolina for vacation.

Pam is survived by her sister, Robyn L. Matthews, of Bear DE; brother, Daniel A. Matthews, of Bear DE; life partner, Jay Rowlin; Jay’s parents, James and Lorraine McElwee, of Middletown DE; and many aunts, uncles, cousins, and a nephew.

A visitation for family and friends will be held from 10am until 11am on Friday, August 2, 2019, at Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Home, 1000 North DuPont Parkway, New Castle, DE, where a funeral service will begin at 11am. Interment will be held privately.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Pam’s memory to the Delaware Humane Association, 701 A Street, Wilmington, DE 19801.


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21 Condolences for Pamela J. “Pam” Matthews

  • The JPMC family is saddened by Pam’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with the Matthews family.

  • My deepest sympathy to all. Pam was taken from us far to soon. Her smiling face, quick whit and bubbly personality will be missed by all. Pam was one in a million and God called her home early. May everyone’s memories help them through these difficult times. Pam is smiling down on all of us now. Until we meet again in Heaven my friend!

  • My prayers are with Robyn and Daniel during this time of sadness.

  • We are neighbors of Jay and Pam and are truly saddened to hear of Pam’s passing. They are both great people and kind neighbors,
    and we pray for them and their families at this most difficult time. We both thought Jay and Pam were made for each other, and it was
    a joy to see them both so happy together. Pam will rest in peace in a much better place, god bless you all.
    Donald & Anita Downs 7-29-19

  • Pam was the light of my life my angel my best love and friend all in one. My family fell in love with her the first she met them they treated her like one of family right off the bat. She was the daughter in law they always hoped to have and they did till god called her to heaven way too soon. Our plans were to be those old couples that holds hands out in public. I couldn’t ask for a better significant other. I’ll miss you honey soo very much till we meet in heaven and be together again holding hands again.

  • She leaves behind 5 wonderful pets 2 cats, Buddy and Maggie and 3 wonderful dogs Jackson,Mason,Hailey. They will miss her and loved licking her face before going to bed. It was the boys every night thing. We all will be together soon some day and be a whole family again.

  • To the Matthews family,
    I am deeply saddened by the loss of Pam. My heart goes out to all of you and my condolences to all of you too. Pam was such a beautiful person inside and out. I’m truly sorry that I will not get to know her better. May she find peace in heaven. God bless all of you.

  • I am so sorry to hear of pam’s passing! I worked with her for many years and will always remember her upbeat personality! I will miss her!

  • Robyn
    You and your family have my deepest sympathies. Keeping you all in my prayers.

  • Gary and I are so sorry for your loss. Pam was our friend for so many years. We’ve seen each other through the good times and the times that were tough. We’ll miss her wonderful sense of humor and her love of family, including the four-legged ones, and friends. We’ll just miss her, but she’ll remain in our hearts.

  • I am truly sorry for the loss of this kind and beautiful woman. She was a great mentor and coworker to me and many others. Her spirit will stay with me forever and I am blessed to have known her. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and all of her friends. Sincere Sympathy to all who knew her.

  • Such a beautiful person Pam babysat for my girls and we all loved her and enjoyed her.She has touched the lives of many

  • Pam was a very kind and loving person very much like her mother. Pam was always willing to lend a helping hand to anyone. The world needs more people like Pam Matthews, kind, loving, and caring to everyone. Pam was one of those personalities that when you met her you instantly liked her and wanted to be around her. She was a true light shining on those that knew her and all of her friends. Pam will be missed. Pam we love you and look forward to seeing you again.

    Ron and Bea West

  • My condolences to all of Pam’s loved ones. I worked with Pam in Payment Research at Chase for many years. She was an outstanding employee, caring person, and always had a smile on her face. She will truly be missed by all that knew her. My thoughts and prayers to her family and friends as they face the difficult days ahead.

  • My prayers of peace for the Matthews family during this time.

  • To the Matthews Family: Please accept my deepest condolences for your family’s loss.
    I worked with Pam at Chase in Payment Research for many years and she always had a smile on her face. I will always remember her sweet and gentle soul. May she Rest In Peace.


  • We are truly sorry to hear of Pam’s passing. We always enjoyed talking to her especially about pets and baking. We offer condolences to Pam’s family and to Jay who shared with Pam that special bond together.

  • Robyn – My deepest sympathy to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • From the moment i met Pam I knew what a kind, generous, loving and beautiful person she was. I loved seeing how happy you and Jason made each other. You were meant to be. You will be missed but more importantly remembered forever.

  • To Robyn, Daniel, Jay, and everyone else who loved and will miss Pam, my thoughts go out to you. Pam was absolutely one of the nicest people I’ve ever met and I am certain she will be missed by many, many people. I had the pleasure of working with her at Chase. She was a WONDERFUL teammate – always striving to do her best, always positive and upbeat, and always willing to help folks at Chase and in the community. We all have “good days” and “bad days” at work, but it seemed like Pam never had a bad day – always so positive; she made coming in to work each day more fun. I feel very fortunate that I had the opportunity to get to know such a beautiful person.

  • Robyn…I was very saddened to learn of your sister’s passing. Whenever I would talk to Cindy, I would always ask about her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as well as her significant other. I just finished talking to Jeanette from the Delaware Humane Society and made a donation in Pam’s name. Thinking of you Robyn, please be well.