Shelby Passwater - Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Homes & Crematory

Shelby Passwater

October 12, 1971 - February 10, 2022

Shelby Passwater, age 50, of Townsend, DE, passed away on Thursday, February 10, 2022.

Born in Wilmington, DE, on October 12, 1971, she was a daughter of Gerry Cooper and Millard Passwater.

Shelby will be remembered for having a big heart and a sarcastic sense of humor.  In her younger days, she enjoyed spending time with her grandparents, Claude and Mary Cross and Kathryn and Allen Tuthill.  Shelby enjoyed watching football and was an avid Cowboys fan. She played pool for the Smyrna Clayton Moose Club for several years. Shelby was very artistic and loved to draw and write.

She is survived by her mother, Gerry Cooper of Wilmington, DE; father, Millard “Butch” Passwater and stepmother, Debbie Passwater of Middletown, DE; sons, Nicholas Whitby of Smyrna, DE and Coleman Whitby of West Grove, PA; sisters, Robin Mareno and partner, Michael Clineff, of West Grove, PA and Colleen Passwater and partner, Henry “Hank” Wojnisz, of Middletown, DE; brother, Scott Passwater and wife, Lindsay Passwater, of Bear, DE; and nieces and nephews, Kierstin Mareno, Chelsea Mareno and Gavin Clineff of West Grove, PA, and Brayden Passwater of Middletown, DE.  Shelby was preceded in death by the love of her life, Michael J. Whitby.

All services will be held privately.

In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations to or to an organization of your choice.


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13 Condolences for Shelby Passwater

  • My condolences and prayers to the whole family, Shelby I miss you already girlfriend, we had some good times, not to many bad. I will cherish your memory forever. Fly high sister, I love you always

  • Shelby you were so loved. Thank you for your wonderful text to me and for your calls to me at night when I was going thru some rough time losing Larry and then with Johnny and his arm. Wish you had talked to me more. I love you girl and miss you so very much. FLY HIGH SWEET ANGEL. Love you

  • Rest In Peace Shelby 💗 I will forever think of you and hope that you an mike are finally together again. Love, “lilbit”

  • My condolences to the family and to my close friend Nicholas. Shelby was like a second mother to me always being their for me and help prepare me for this wild ride we call life. May her soul finally find peace as she moves to a better place, a place where she can watch over her family and kids and always be in their hearts.

  • I met Shelby when I moved in down the street from her & her family. When we met we realized we shared alot of similarities. We both were moms of kids the same age, we both watched each other’s kids so we could have just a little time to decompress & we both shared a quick sharp sarcastic sense of humor. She got & shared my quick sharp sarcastic sense of humor. We both moved from that street & lost track of each other but I have never forgotten the good & bad times we shared. The rough times that everyone endures & the good times where we shared similar stories of motherhood & life.
    Even though we both moved & lost touch with each other I have such good memories of Shelby & our kids spending time with each other.
    I was paralyzed with shock when I heard she had passed. However, i know she is watching over her children &
    and we will all be reunited one day

  • I met Shelby when I moved in a few houses down in Smyrma.
    We shared children of the same age who became close friends & Shelby & I formed a friendship sharing a quick, sharp & sarcastic sense of humor.
    However, she is with the angels & can watch over & guide her beautiful children.
    You will be missed.

  • Rest In Peace aunt Shelby

  • Butch, Debbie and family so sorry to hear of Shelby’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. May the Peace of God be with you at this time and always. Lee

  • I’ll always remember the laughs we had with your your mom, Nick. Like going to get burgers from Kenton store and her smile. There are many good memories that we have shared My condolences go out to the entire family. Love you Nick

  • I’m so sorry learn Shelby passed. I can remember many days playing as children when I visited my cousin Donnie, and many laughs together as teenagers. RIP

  • Dear Gerry and family, my thoughts and prayers to all. So sorry for your loss.

  • Our deepest sympathy to all of you who loved Shelby.

    Lorraine and David Nickle

  • Sure will miss you- so many crazy memories! Glad you’re reunited with your true love and you two can watch over your babies! Tell my son and Lori and Brenda hi! Save me a seat- I love you girlfriend 💜🙏