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Thomas Henry "Tom" Layman  

Thomas Henry “Tom” Layman

October 26, 1959 – January 24, 2017

Thomas Henry “Tom” Layman, age 57, of Newark, DE, passed away unexpectedly on Tuesday, January 24, 2017. Born in Wilmington, DE, on October 26, 1959, he was the son of the late Henry Q. Layman, Jr. and Elizabeth (Breslin) Layman.

Tom proudly served in the US Navy from 1977 to 1983. He was assigned to the USS Nautilus, the Navy’s first nuclear powered submarine and was part of the decommissioning crew when it was decommissioned in 1980. Tom was an avid history buff and enjoyed backpacking and line dancing.

In addition to his parents, he was preceded in death by his brother-in-law, William J. Opalach, Sr. Tom is survived by his sisters, Betty Anne Opalach of Middletown, DE and Nancy L. Moore (James) of Newark, DE; nephews, William J. Opalach, Jr. (Jennifer) of Wilmington, DE, Brian T. Opalach (Ashley) of Pittsburgh, PA, and James Allan Moore (Grace) of Avondale, PA; niece, Jennifer L. Dalby (Tim) of New Castle, DE; great nephews and nieces, Augustus Rivera, Sebastian Sarbora, Zeus Opalach, Aurora Opalach, Jordan Dalby, Abigail Dalby, Cecelia Moore, and Jameson Moore; and his loving friend, Rhonda Payne of Oxford, PA.

A visitation for family and friends will be held from 2 pm to 3 pm on Sunday, January 29, 2017 at the Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Home, 1000 N. DuPont Parkway, New Castle, DE, where a memorial service will be held at 3 pm. Interment will be private.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Oxford Silo, Attention: Melissa Pacella, P.O. Box 22, Oxford, PA 19363. Oxford Silo is an organization dedicated to serving the homeless, which was especially important to Tom.

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  1. natalie smith, January 25, 2017

    Tom will be missed by many. RIP

  2. Bill Valencia, January 26, 2017

    RIP Tom. I will miss you and our conversations my friend.

  3. Patsy Dominick, January 26, 2017

    Nancy, My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

  4. Judy Barnett, January 26, 2017

    Tom you were one of the good ones. Dave & I will never ever forget you. RIP.

  5. Rebecca Crowe, January 26, 2017

    “For it is by self forgetting that one finds, it is by forgiving that one is forgiven and it is by dying that one awakens to eternal life” RIP Tom you will be missed!

  6. Fay Foster, January 26, 2017

    My deepest sympathies to his family and friends. Tom was one of the nicest people I’ve meet. Always a smile and a kind word for everyone.

    He will truly be missed.

  7. Rick Wilson, January 26, 2017

    It is with much sadness that he is no longer with us.

  8. Sandy Lott, January 26, 2017

    Rest easy friend. Your determination to always help others will be sorely missed. My sincere sympathy to Tom’s family and many friends.

  9. Francine P Vogell, January 26, 2017

    For Tom’s loved ones, I admired and respected him. He had a way of sharing his journey like no other. I will always remember. Peace be with you all through this time of mourning and reflection.

  10. Paulette Lukas, January 26, 2017

    We lost an awesome man…loving, caring and kind. He will be missed by many. I guess God needed another angel. We will miss him dearly.

  11. Teresa Galloway, January 26, 2017

    Your smile when we’d spot each other would make my heart smile. I will miss that and you. Love and peace.

  12. Patricia Plaster, January 26, 2017

    I am so glad to have met Tom and shared his friendship. Tom was a wonderful man. Very caring and giving. Tom will be truly missed by many! Prayers for the family and for the one who was truly his love, Rhonda.
    With sadness I say goodbye.
    I know you will be dancing with us in spirit.
    Love you Tom, keep on dancing.

  13. Maureen Tedesco, January 26, 2017

    RIP. Tom I got to talk to you a few times at Uncle Bob’s. I enjoyed watching Rhonda dance. I know that you were a great person because you made my friend so happy.

  14. Aaron Herninko, January 26, 2017

    my heart is heavy. you were a real friend to me. will miss you.

  15. Tim Conroy, January 26, 2017

    All my memories of Tom are fond memoeries his mentoring me during a very difficult time meant more then he may ever know now, even though I expressed this to him many times,he will be missed ever day his kind words and demeanor were often my inspiration to be a better person, my heart feels much heaverier than before ,I will miss him very much,my daughter wanted me to write how much she like Tom and his tole house chocolate chip cookies were always her and my favorite,rest in peace my friend, Tim and Alexis Conroy.

  16. Kelli S Young, January 26, 2017

    More than a moment and less than an hour was exactly the amount of time it took me to realize the extraordinary Man Tom was,, he will not be easily forgotten, as he will not be forgotten…..

  17. Cindy Clayton, January 26, 2017

    RIP Tom…May GOD comfort all whose heart is hurting & still in shock you are gone.. HE will provide comfort & peace fir those that seek HIM. So sorry for your loss!!!

  18. Ray & Carrie, January 27, 2017

    Nancy and Jim, Our deepest sympathy is with you at the loss of such of caring brother.

  19. Arville Taylor, January 27, 2017

    Rip, my friend, strong message. My condolences to his family.

  20. Charlie Jordan, January 27, 2017

    Tom was a great friend and always willing to help others. I will miss him.

  21. Julie Scherer, January 27, 2017

    RIP. You are missed. Condolences to all.

  22. Ed, January 27, 2017

    When I first met Tom we were both in some hard times. I was glad to see those times change for us both. Tom was a pleasure to talk to about all kinds of stuff. Good guy. My condolences to his loved ones.

  23. Randy Davis, January 27, 2017

    As a fellow Navy veteran Tom and I shared some of our “war stories”. Loved to dance and enjoyed life to its fullest. We’ll miss you and remember the good times at our dances. “Run silent run deep”

  24. Tracy Dutton, January 28, 2017

    I just now heard the news I am quite distraught, to say the least. What a shock! Tom and I were very good friends for many years. I enjoyed his intelligence, his outdoor spirit, his perspective, humor and his ability to pack a ton of stuff into a very small space due to having lived on a submarine. He helped me move many times and he even buried my precious, cat, Sophie Marie in his backyard with me. He was so tender and sweet. He wrapped her just perfectly in swaddling clothes, in the forest and he said a lovely prayer. I couldn’t have gotten through her death or burial without Tom’s strength and support. Tom was a damn good friend to me and I am so sorry to hear this news. I want to say I am so sorry to all of Tom’s family and friends. He was a great guy and will be deeply missed. Godspeed Tom. Godspeed my friend.

  25. phil wax, January 28, 2017

    You always had something nice to say. I guess I’ll see you when I see you happy travels my ‘ol friend. Cowboy Phil.

  26. Dale franklin, January 28, 2017

    Rip my old friend you will be missed

  27. Phil Lothrop, January 28, 2017

    Its always sad when we lose a true American like Tom.
    Rest in peace; we’ll miss you at the Cove, Tom.

  28. Melissa Hughes, January 28, 2017

    My heart goes out to Tom’s family and especially Rhonda Payne. He was a very nice, caring person with a wonderful spirit. I met Tom on the dance floor at Christiana Pub about a year ago. He was so full of energy and had a beautiful smile. My you find comfort in the beautiful memories you shared. He will be greatly missed!

  29. Dale Potts, January 28, 2017

    I am shocked by Tom’s sudden passing I too have fond memories, one inparticul is our trip to Virginia to go white water rafting and camping. Tom was instrumental in my early sobriety as well, speaking at the beginner’s meeting at Westminster. Tom was a great man. I’ll never forget how hard he made me laugh telling me about the time the SWAT team took over his apartment. God rest your precious soul my brother. Much love.. …..

  30. Tony Freedman, January 29, 2017

    Tom shared his journey with many and will be missed.

  31. Dave Federici, January 31, 2017

    Tom was a good man and I enjoyed working with him. He was always positive when I talked with him and we always stopped in the hall to chat. My condolences to the family. RIP Tom.

  32. Kerry DiVizio, February 1, 2017

    I’m so sorry. You will be missed Tom.

  33. James McKain, February 8, 2017

    Just heard the news. Hard to believe. Tom was a great guy He’ll be missed. RIP.

  34. Victor Alvarez, June 22, 2017

    I just learned of Tom’s passing today. I hadn’t seen him in years, but spent a lot time with him playing strategic games when I was younger. I clearly remember many talks with him about history and politics. He was an intense and interesting friend and this world is darker without his light. Rest in peace my friend.


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