Brian Matthew Bandy - Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Homes & Crematory

Brian Matthew Bandy

August 28, 1981 - August 4, 2022

Brian Matthew Bandy, age 40, of Newark, DE, passed away on Thursday, August 4, 2022.

Born in Havre de Grace, MD on August 28, 1981, he was a son of Gary Randall “Randy” Bandy and Donna Rose (McKeever) Fontanez. Brian attended Elkton High School. He worked in various professions but enjoyed working for the Christina School District the most.

Brian and Michael enjoyed the holidays, especially Christmas, and entertaining and cooking for their many friends and family. They loved going to various restaurants. Brian will always be remembered for his humorous personality, gift for making friends, and enjoying life in general, especially the last ten years. He will also always be remembered as a dear friend to many. He was full of life.  Brian loved watching movies in the comfort of his home.

Brian was preceded in death by his husband, Michael Joseph Bandy-Pistory. In addition to his parents, he is survived by his son, Dakota Bandy-Pistory; stepfather, J.R. Fontanez; brother, Anthony Fontanez and Jamie Rasinski; and several aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews and cousins.

A visitation for family and friends will be held from 10 am until 11 am on Friday, August 26, 2022, at Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Home, 121 W. Park Place, Newark, DE, where a memorial service will begin at 11 am. Interment will be held privately.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to the funeral home to offset funeral expenses.


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11 Condolences for Brian Matthew Bandy

  • As much as it saddens me to see that you are gone brian I know you are in a better place and that you are happy once again cause you are reunited with your other half, it broke my heart to see how Michael’s death took a toll on you and how much you have missed him the past 1 and a half years…..I am blessed to have called you my brother…I love you man!!! And I look forward to seeing you again!!! Thanks for all the great memories

  • Again, it’s so difficult to believe. Prayers for your family

  • I’m so sorry for your loss. I know what you are feeling I lost my sister in 2018 Christina Gsell.

    There are no words 😢.

  • Brian and I sat in class and instead of doing work we would talk about rocky horror picture show and the band hole. I will love and miss you

  • We lost a brother, a friend, an all around great person. Brian you were taken way to soon. We know after the loss of your husband Michael you were never the same it took a toll on you and the family. All we hope is that you found Michael and are planning for an epic Halloween party. We love you. Watch over everyone in the family. A and don’t forget to ask what would Courtney love say. We love you Brian!

  • So sorry for your loss. Prayers for comfort.

  • So sorry for the loss. Brian is someone I will never forget. He was wild & crazy but in all the best ways. Not to mention he had a heart of gold & would do almost anything for those he cared about. He’ll definitely be missed & never forgotten.

  • I knew Brian from the Delaware Autism Program. He had duties at the residential unit where I worked and in the main building at Brennen School. He always was responsive whenever we needed materials and we knew he was the go-to guy and that we didn’t have to worry after contacting him for the job would get done. Gee, wish the rest of the world worked that way! His humor and wit were also appreciated especially in a profession like ours. RIP Brian, you will be missed.
    Lee Phillips, Newark, Delaware

  • Sir Brian,

    I’m still in such disbelief .. thank you for being a great friend .. I’ll miss you !!Fly my friend Fly high!❤️🥺😢

  • You were one of the funniest and friendly person I know. I know in my heart you are back with Michael. Condolences to your friends and family. The world lost another beautiful soul. You will be missed.

  • My Sincerest Condolences to Brian’s parents…💐💐💐✝️✝️✝️. I went to school with them…
    At Elkton…