Constance Lou “Connie” McElwee

September 12, 1944 - May 11, 2020

Constance Lou “Connie” McElwee, age 75, of New Castle, DE, lost her battle with a brief illness early in the morning of Monday, May 11, 2020.

Born in Savannah, GA on September 12, 1944, she was a daughter of the late Charlie Pitts and Virginia Hand. Connie was known for being a great cook and many would drive for miles just to have a plate of her famous spaghetti and meatball’s. She was also known for having an open door to all kids that needed a place to stay during hard times. In her younger days, one of her favorite past times was dancing with her husband, Barry. When they would go out with friends, she always bragged about what a good dancer he was. Connie was also a big bragger, she loved to brag about her kids and how well they were doing in life. Her kids were her life, she said to each and every one of us ALL the time.

Mom’s pain is gone and she is now with her dad and sister who she mentioned everyday about how much she missed them. We are happy that they are reunited but we’re also very selfish and would love to have her back. Mom was the first to be taken in these new times (Coronavirus) from us and we didn’t get to say a proper good bye. We rely on God to relay our words and take comfort in knowing he will let her know we would have been there at the end if at all possible. We love you so very much mom.

In addition to Connie’s parents, she was preceded in death by her stepmother, Alice Pitts; sister, Maria Watts; and grandson, Justin Carlson. She is survived by her husband of 40 years, Barry McElwee; children, Maria Permenter (Warren), Timmy Moyer (Mitzi), Curt Stackler (Chrissy), Joann Rankin (Paul) and Cindy Weaver; stepson, Barry McElwee, Jr.; 15 grandchildren; 9 great grandchildren; and sisters, Virginia McPherson, Debbie Wertz, JoAnn Dyer and Judy Dale. There is a list of family she leaves behind, there are many others who called her their extended mom and was loved by so many. Connie loved to be with family and didn’t like that many had moved so far away.

All services will be held privately.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Connie’s memory to the Helen F. Graham Cancer Center, 4701 Ogletown Stanton Road, Newark, DE 19713.


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14 Condolences for Constance Lou “Connie” McElwee

  • To my ornery Aunt Connie, you will be missed so much! I’m so sorry we couldn’t be there to say goodbye. I enjoyed all the laughs we had together and how much you reminded me of Mom-Mom, I hope you are dancing in heaven. I love you and I’ll keep that special present in my pocket for when we meet again.. a nice juicy one for ya!

    Love, Nicole

  • Mom, I am so very sorry not to of been there to say good bye. I will always remember all the good time’s. I will also always love that when ever I came home from the Navy that you always told my sisters God was coming home….lol Tell all our family in heaven hello for me and my family. Rest easy mom were all ok. I love you so very much

  • Remembering all the good times and fun memories with a great lady. She had a way of making everyone laugh and enjoy family gatherings . We are very sorry we won’t be able to get together with family to celebrate her life please know that Aunt Connie is dearly missed and loved and in our prayers. Love to all Mike, Mimi and kids

  • Connie and I worked at Italian restaurant many years ago. I was her taste tester lucky me! Connie was a warm wonderful lady like her sister Marie. I’m sure you have wonderful memories. Sending love and prayers

  • Very sorry for your loss Curt! Sending prays to your entire family

  • Mommom,
    I’m gonna miss you so much! I’m sorry I couldn’t be there to say goodbye but I am glad I got to see you this past March. I knew then it could be the last time, but hoped it wouldn’t be. I’ll always remember all our fun times, when I raise Belle I wanna do it just like you raised me. I hope her and I have the same special bond we had. My heart is so broken knowing you’re gone, but I know you will forever live on through your beautiful family. I love you most, I’ll see you on the other side.

  • Gerry and I are so sorry for the families loss. It is a bad year for many of us. Love you Maria!

  • Aunt Connie will be truly missed
    If we could go back to the simple times of so much fun and laughter. She was always the clown of the party. I always remember her doing something really ornery from burning bras to calling me by my nick name in front of a friend. to singing to her husband while pulling on his beard. I always remember her running from the camera. It was so much fun being with all the cousins because our moms were so close to one another. There were ups and downs throughout the years, but she could always make you smile,
    She will now be with our loved ones who have passed. It is with sorrow I can’t say goodbye properly, but I’m happy I saw you a few months ago.
    RIP Aunt Connie
    Dance. Dance. Dance
    Your Lump Lump
    Kiss my Angel for me

  • My thoughts & Prayers are with all of you!

  • All in the name of Jesus Christ Our Lord and Savior my heart and my family are praying for you we pray that God will have his way in all of our Lives now from this point on keep your heads up and keep looking to Christ he’s our only Savior and we pray that Mama made it in thank you, Amen.

  • I’m so sorry for your loss.. she was like a second mom to me when we were kids.. my prayers go out to the family.

  • Sorry for the loss, I am here if you need me. Just call and I’ll be there soon enough.

  • My condolences to the entire family. I loved this little woman like my own mama. And Cindy, I’m so glad me and dad came to see you this last time because I got to give your mom a hug. I just wish it wasn’t the last hug I would be giving her. She was one beautiful lady.

  • To my best friend and mother I will always love you and never forget you where you live through all of your kids and grandkids I wish I could have been there for you I pray to you every night and their heart I wasn’t ready for you to go I’m sorry I didn’t make it to the funeral if I can go back I would never put you through the hell I put you through I would have been a good girl mom please forgive me