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Judith A. “Judy” Brimer

April 27, 1945 - January 13, 2021

 Judith A. “Judy” Brimer, age 75, of Wallingford, PA, formerly of New Castle, DE, passed away into the arms or our Lord, on Wednesday, January 13, 2021, surrounded by the loving and devoted healthcare angels at Riddle Hospital. Her family is saddened that COVID-19 took her from this earth, but rejoice in knowing that she is joyfully reunited with her beloved husband, Roy, and son, Kenny, in heaven.

Born on April 27, 1945 in Philadelphia, PA, she was the oldest daughter of the late Edmund F. Finley and Esther L. (Kelley) Finley. 

Judy was a graduate of the Padua Academy class of 1963. She studied education for a year at the University of Delaware to fulfill her dream of becoming a teacher. Judy and Roy were devoted and selfless parents to three children. Kenny, their son, was born with many challenges and his disabilities became the focus of Judy’s efforts and energies. She was a loving and proactive advocate for her son’s life. Judy ensured that Kenny’s life was filled with possibilities and she helped others “see” his abilities. She took great pride in being a PTA officer at John G. Leach School, where her son attended until he turned 21. Judy worked with others to start a non-profit post-21 transition program, C.E.R.T.S., Inc. (Collaborative Effort to Reinforce Transition Success). She also served on medical transition committees for Nemours/Alfred I. duPont Hospital for Children and Christiana Care, which forever changed the way disability services were designed and delivered in Delaware. After the death of her son, Judy volunteered at Seasons Hospice and in Christiana Hospital’s Palliative Care. She was a quintessential caregiver, and was active in providing numerous opportunities for people with disabilities and their families in an effort to maximize their quality of life. 

 Judy loved her children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, grandnieces, grandnephews and every child she met. She was always happy to celebrate, no matter the occasion. Judy would dress up as a bunny on Easter and Mrs. Claus on Christmas. She loved to garden, and her desire to dig in the earth and enjoy the beauty of nature fueled that passion. Judy stopped to collect beautiful leaves in the fall, shells on the beach, and rocks. She would collect coins with her grandchildren’s birth years, place them in glass jars, wrap them with a bow and attach a loving message. Judy was always thinking of others, and writing to others was a treasured hobby.

Her moral foundation was based on her strong Catholic faith. Judy was a proud Eucharistic minister at Our Lady of Fatima, her parish for over 60 years. She acted out her faith daily, and it is her belief, which she has instilled into her loved ones, that carries us through life. 

Judy’s beloved best friend and husband of 45 years, Roy W. Brimer, died in 2015. She was also preceded in death by her parents, her son, Kenneth P. “Kenny” Brimer, and her dearest sister, Denise F. Johnson. Judy is survived by her children, Karen M. Hirt (Kevin) of Springfield, PA and Christine M. DiGiovanni (Donald Jr.) of Wilmington; her adored grandchildren, Jack Hirt, Amanda Hirt, Donald DiGiovanni III and Patrick DiGiovanni; brothers, Edmund F. Finley Jr. (Joan) and Robert F. Finley (Susan); sisters, Therese Mucha (Robert) and Lonie Sculley (Geoff); and brother-in-law, David Brimer (Wayne Haymaker). She leaves many fond memories with her nieces and nephews and their families, Joie Finley, Mike Finley, Eric Mucha, Megan Weisgerber, Brenton Sculley, Heather Finley, and grand nieces and nephews, Mike and Kelley Finley, Flynn Mucha, CJ and Charlie Weisgerber, Aubree, Remy and Cash Sculley, and Dylan and Lily Finley. Judy also leaves behind so much love for her best friends who were her family, Bruce and Christine Richardson, Tim and Mary Louise McMahon, Jack Jadach, and Terri Hancharick.

Her daughters would like to whole heartedly thank those who were influential in Judy’s life. They are grateful for the McCallmont Road neighbors, Our Lady of Fatima Parish, the John G. Leach School family, and her friends at Plush Mills.

A Memorial Mass and Celebration of Life “Judy-style” will be held at 10 am on Friday, August 20, 2021, at Our Lady of Fatima R.C. Church, 801 N. DuPont Highway, New Castle, DE 19720. Face coverings will be required for all those in attendance not immunized with the COVID-19 vaccine per the Governor of Delaware. Entombment was held privately in All Saints Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, please pay it forward and go out of your way to help a stranger, find the beauty in all things, and always live with love in your hearts.   Memorial contributions may be made in Judy’s honor to EPIC, (Endless Possibilities in the Community) 351 George Williams Way, Newark, DE 19702 or go to www.epicdelaware.org


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30 Condolences for Judith A. “Judy” Brimer

  • We were so sad to hear of Judy’s passing. We met Judy through her niece, our daughter-in-law, Megan Weisgerber. She was a pleasure to be around. What a sweet lady💕.
    God bless all of her family🙏

  • Such beautiful words! Again, I am so sorry for such a tremendous loss. This picture of your mother embodies her whole personality. Love you all.

  • I never had the opportunity to meet Judy, but I work with her daughter Karen. If Karen’s mom was anything like her daughter, then she was one special lady. A thoughtful person who puts others before her self. I remember Karen sending me a picture of her and her mom at the beach. She was so happy and I know she will always hold that memory. Rest in Peace Judy.

  • What a beautiful tribute. Praying for you all and love the reminder to pay it forward.

  • God bless u Judy! A dear friend 2 ALL who knew her! She will always b in our hearts! Judy leaves EVERYONE better than b4 u met her! She leaves this world much better off because of her love & infectious smile! U will b missed greatly Judy! Now u can give special hugs 2 your beloved Roy & special Kenny! Luv u always!

  • What a beautiful tribute! We are so sorry for your tremendous loss. Your family will remain in our prayers!

  • Judy singlehandedly improved services for people with disabilities in Delaware. She was a woman full of light and energy. I can hear her laughter so easily. She was a calm, strong force to be reckoned with and I am forever grateful to have had a chance to work beside her and with her. She gave the best hugs and always made everyone she interacted with feel like they were the most important person to her. She left a legacy your whole family can be proud of.

  • Judy lived her faith daily and was a true example for all of us to live and love everyone no matter their abilities. Judy’s gifts have touched many of us…how lucky are we. Her grace , kindness, and selflessness can be seen in her grandchildren, Jack and Amanda. It has been our blessing to know and love Judy through the amazing Hirt Family. God is good.

  • I have known Judy for many years and what a wonderful person she was!! I lived in Wilmington Manor, and Joan Finley is my best friend. I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers, and yes, she is with her beloved Roy and wonderful son Kenny. I have many fond memories.

  • This is such a beautiful tribute! It is clear she loved and was well loved. 🙏🙏🙏

  • Christine,
    I am saddened to learn of your mother’s passing. Please know how very sorry I am. Your mother was a giving and caring person….truly an angel on earth. It’s hard to understand why one so loved is taken from us. When the Lord calls our loved ones home, he leaves a gift of memories in exchange, Hold on to your memories, and let them guide you during this time of sadness. Please know that you and your family will be in my daily prayers. Love to Don and the boys.

  • Dear Brimer Family,
    We are so heart broken at the loss of your wonderful Mom. She was an incredible women. We will keep your entire family in our hearts and our prayers. What a beautiful tribute to the life of such phenomenal lady! May she Rest In Peace in heaven with Roy and Kenny.
    With love and affection,
    The Mazick Family

  • God Bless, Judy! An angel on earth and now an angel in heaven!
    This writing of Judy’s life so captures her essence and who she was down here on earth. I am so very saddened and especially because she died from Covid. May she now rejoice in being with her son and husband and keep an eye on us down here! Gone too soon!💖

  • Sorry for your loss, Judy and Roy were both so much help with the Knights of Columbus at Our Lady of Fatima.

  • To the Brimer family,

    So sorry to hear of you Mom’s passing. She was a truly exceptional woman of great faith and fun to be around. You are all in my prayers.

  • With deepest sympathy, the parishioners of Our Lady of Fatima.

  • Just wanted to say my condolences for Judy, she was such a nice lady and it was great to know her at Plush Mills. She will always be remembered for her smile and kind heart.

    A lots of Love,
    Kamal Kaur
    (Plush Mills)

  • My condolences goes for Judy and her family! With a lot of love and happiness, her favorite bartender at Plush Mills. She will be missed!


  • I was very shocked and saddened at Judy’s passing. She was a wonderful neighbor and great friend. Judy, Dona Blaine and I were all raising our young children and did many activities together. She was so kind and helpful to anyone who needed help. Karen and Chrissie you have my deepest sympathy. I will miss your mother.
    Joan Walsh

  • I am a cousin of Judy. She always had a smile to share and soft tone in voice. I remember her for always having a kind word no matter what the situation. She is now in Gods hands. Rest In Peace Judy.

  • Judy was truly beautiful both inside and out. Thoughts and prayers for your family.

  • What a beautiful Obituary, it really captured the woman, wife, mother, and friend Judy was. I have know Judy my entire life, as cousins who were close in age we had a special bond. Judy was always so sweet and kind, I don’t think I ever saw her get angry. I’m sure she has a special place in heaven and I picture her being met by Roy and Kenny and Kenny being able to thank her for all she did for him. She was a wonderful person and will be missed by many! RIP sweet Judy!

  • I was saddened to hear of Judy’s passing. I lived in Penn Acres, went to OLF serving as a Eucharist Minister with Judy. She was a lovely lady who I’d run into from time to time around the area. My sincere condolences to the entire Finley/Briner families. Heaven has gained an angel. Rest In Peace Judy.

  • Karen Hirt and Family of Judith Hirt,
    We have met your mom several times when I was at Plush Mills to see my sister Marie. She was always very pleasant and had an uplifting spirit about her. We were saddened to hear of her passing a few days after the passing of my sister Marie. We can take comfort knowing that both you mom and Marie are now at peace and enjoying each others company with the Lord. I will be enrolling your mom with the Augustinian Friars for their Masses and prayers for the deceased. Dan & Peggy O’Mara Rose Valley, PA

  • I miss your face, your wit, your friendship, your empathy, your love, your attention to detail, your problem solving techniques, your laugh, your support, and most of all I just miss you. I know you are in a better place and with Kenny and Roy looking down upon us smiling at your loved ones and will still always be there for us. God Bless you Judy and Rest in Peace. All my love and condolences to your family. You are never far from my heart.

  • Dear Karen, Chrissy and family,

    Sending my sincere condolences to you all upon the passing of your mother.

    As a McCallmont Road neighbor for over 30 years, Judy will always be remembered for the sweetness of her smile and the kindness of her heart that she shared with all who came into her life!

    May the God of all comfort and peace bring the healing love only He can provide to your grieving family.

    Much love,
    Anne Borreggine
    Beaufort, SC

  • We are so sorry to hear of Judy’s passing. She was a wonderful person. Our hearts are with the Finley family. We miss all of you.

  • Very sad to hear about Judy .Knew her and Roy from OLAF . A wonderful couple was fortunate to met them ,
    They are now both together in Heaven .

    My prayers are with the entire family.

  • So very saddened to read of Judy’s passing. Met her many years ago through her dear son, Kenny, and his many years as a patient at Nemours Hospital. She was a truly devoted mom, and selfless advocate for Kenny and countless others. She had a brilliant smile. She has joined Kenny and Roy in heaven. RIP, lovely Judy.

  • Judy was such a joy to be around. I got to know her when she lived at Plush Mills and was sad to her of her passing. She enjoyed coming to arts and crafts as well as our version of Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy. She was a friend to all who knew her.