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Kellie A. (Lancaster) Newman

August 27, 1964 - March 17, 2023

Kellie A. (Lancaster) Newman, age 58, of Felton, DE, was found on Friday, March 17, 2023. She had taken her own life after a battle with depression following the death of her husband.

Born in Dover, DE on August 27, 1964, she was a daughter of Susan Lancaster and the late George Lancaster. Kellie grew up in Port Penn, DE. She moved during her teen years to Nebraska, graduating from Papillion La Vista High School. Kellie worked for many years at the Blood Bank of Delaware as a lab supervisor and also as a phlebotomist. Prior to her death, she had most recently worked as a table games dealer at Harrington Raceway and Casino. Kellie had married her husband, who she affectionately referred to as “My Theo”, on Valentine’s Day in 2008.

Early in her life, Kellie joined the volunteer fire service and was a member of the Port Penn Fire Company before moving and joining the Bowers Fire Company. She was proud to be the first female President of a Fire Company in Kent County. In her free time, Kellie enjoyed gardening and crafts. She was also a talented artist and had previously written poetry. Kellie loved spending time with her family, especially her grandchildren, and also riding motorcycles with her husband.

In addition to her father, Kellie was preceded in death by her husband, Theo. She is survived by her mother, Susan; daughter, Susan (Robert); grandchildren, Brianna, Gabriella, and Chase; and siblings, Michael and Amy.

All services for Kellie will be private for family in order to best honor her wishes.

In lieu of flowers, Kellie’s family requests you bring awareness to the importance of mental health. It is okay to not be okay. A memorial fund has been set up in Kellie’s honor and can be found by clicking here. All proceeds benefit the Delaware Chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention


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36 Condolences for Kellie A. (Lancaster) Newman

  • We Love you Suzie. Sending love to you and the family.

  • Our deepest condolences to your family. I admired Kellie; her wit, her talents, her I can do anything attitude. She loved very deeply! She was also loved by many!

  • My life was richer for having known Kellie. Indeed one of a kind and one of the best. My sincere condolences to her family.
    Always in my heart Kell.

  • Kellie is one of the most authentic souls I have met. She is and was loved by so very many. I will miss her and honor her wishes always
    Thinking of her family and friends as I know they must be hurting more than I am.
    Rest easy my friend, we got it from here

  • Kellie,
    I hope you are at peace and are at rest. You will be truly missed.


  • To Kellie’s Family & Friends,
    I’m truly sorry for your loss. Kellie was a wonderful woman who walked to the beat of her own drum. I admired her courage & tenacity in doing what she wanted, when she wanted. She will be deeply missed. Fly high Kellie!!! I love You. Momma Deb 💔

  • I am so sorry for this life lost because of depression. Kellie had a great soul and loved helping people. We used to ride to work together and just talk about whatever craziness she had done over the weekend or projects she had done. She was a great friend and co-work at the blood bank and is deeply missed. I am thinking of the family during this difficult time and will pray for peace from our Lord God. She was one a kind

  • My deepest condolences to the family. I worked with Kellie for many years. Always positive and always looking out for the betterment of her coworkers and the job she was committed to. Kellie could bring a smile to anyone’s face and could be counted on to liven up a party! So talented! I believe in my heart she is where she wants to be, but will be missed by all the people whose lives she touched! RIP!❤️🙏

  • I am deeply sorry for your loss.

  • So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.

  • I will only remember the tiny girl With the sunshine in her smile one day at an alarm both our fire companies responded to. Sending peace, sympathies, and hope to everyone whom she touched. God speed

  • I am so very sorry for all of you and prayers for you all

  • With tears in my eyes and pain in my heart she will be missed.
    Kellie was like a daughter to me

    Gene and I spent a lot of time with them in Port Penn we were very close to Sue and George and the kids
    Kellie will be missed . My heart goes out to Sue and the kids.
    I love you Kell.

  • We (my wife and I) met Kellie and Theo during their travel to Niagara falls ON Canada several years ago. We spent a night at hotel together drinking and talking about different things. Ever since we were Kellie’s followers in FB. I can’t say how sorry I am once I saw her daughter’s announcement. My condolences from the bottom of my heart. RIP Kellie.

  • Way back when I was 22 I married Kellies brother Michael. Kellie was a young mother of a four year old Susie, she was a strong, proud mother and fire fighter. She was always involved with family, and supported her community fire company, she was so much fun to be around. She loved her brother, my then husband, and was always there to greet us when we traveled to her family home in Pirt Penn. Mike was in the USAF. stationed in NJ and came to Delaware as often as we could. Kellie was the life of the party, she was always chatting, laughing, making everyone feel welcome. It was always so much fun to watch her and her father George dancing together! He taught her well, they could cut a rug! Kellie was always friendly and kind to me, and I will always be thankful for that. There will always be a place in my heart for her, you see….I understand the pain of depression, sadness, and symptoms unrecognized my son spiraled into a dark lonely place so awful and severe that my son attempted suicide 7 years ago. He was not successful, although he jumped off a balcony 5 stories high. Kellie and her sister Amy rushed to be at their nephew Jordan’s side, traveling from Delaware to Florida! Kellie was instrumental in keeping our hopes up, remaining positive and supporting her brother Mike. The thought that Kellie was depressed after she lost her most loved best friend Theo….and that hopelessness and despair settled in, that Kellies pain was so immense, she saw no other way, is so unbelievable to me, it’s incredibly sad. Mental health is still such a stigmatized area of medicine. I find it so very frustrating that finding mental health care is nonexistent for many people, they are forced to live in pain and so often that pain becomes a crisis. I pray there is change, that our government places importance on this much needed issue. Covid caused such a mental health emergency….and still, there are so many people suffering, without assistance. Kellie was a phenomenal woman, she was smart, strong and happy. She deserved better, systems we currently rely on….are a failure. I’m so sorry for this families loss.
    Kellie was loved by many….and will be missed by more. My thoughts and prayers are with her family. Kellie, may you have found your peace that you left here for!

  • When I met Kellie she was instantly friendly and welcoming. Her and Theo together had such a wonderful take on life and all the things. I loved her point of view and sense of humor! Nothing was boring when you did it with Kellie! I really admired her as a women, she beat to her own drum for sure. The world is forever changed without those two. I feel lucky to have spent the time with them that I did and forever greatful. Prayers and good vibes to her closest family and friends.

  • Sending prayers to the family.

  • RIP Kellie. I hope you find your peace with Theo. You will be missed. Thanks for the memories.

  • To the family I adore and consider my family ,I send my condolences. God bless all of you.🙏

  • So sorry for y’all loss sending healing prayers for y’all

  • Kellie, my heart is broken. You will be greatly missed my friend. We had many good times working at Bbd together. You always trying to tie my hair in a knot but it would never stay lol. I know your with Theo together now. I love you and until we meet again my friend❤️ My condolences to your family at this hard time.

  • Suzi I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers

  • Sincere condolences to the family. Kellie was a lovely person and a bright light in the world. She will be missed.

  • My condolences. You were a joy to to work with. I’m going to miss you.

  • My deepest sympathy to Susie and family. Worked with kellie at the blood bank. Will never forget her. She is resting in peace now that she is with her Theo.

  • Kellie, you were a special friend and we had some great adventures together. You will be missed. You always had a way of making me smile even on my darkest days.
    Rest in peace my friend until we meet again.

  • Susie and family. I met your mom through my husband Richard Heisler. I loved her from the first minute of meeting her. She was a constant source of entertainment, on fb or in person. I have missed her these last months and will continue to miss her. My sincere sympathy to you and your family. She will always be in my heart.

  • Sue, Amy, Michael and family,
    I’m so very, very sorry to hear of Kellie’s struggle and death. Please know all of you are in my thoughts and prayers. She was a bright light that was extinguished entirely too soon. Sending love and hugs.

  • We are so sorry for your losses!! To know Kelly was an honor!! She was family to those of us that worked with her and laughed with her!! She will never be forgotten by us!! She and Theo were as close to a perfect couple anyone could imagine!!

  • Kellie I hope you are at peace now was sorry to hear the news of missing and more sad of the news on your passing.

  • Susie and Family,
    We are so sorry about your Mom. May she rest in peace. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. Sending love and hugs.
    Love, Pat and Bob Bandanza XOXO

  • RIP Kellie. You were one of a kind and will be missed.


  • May your pain be lifted and you rest in peace.These are the prayers I give for you.Both you and Theo were very kind neighbors that looked out for all of us. To your family I’m sorry for your loss

  • Sending love and prayers ❤️🙏 know you are not alone

  • First of all I send my condolences too Susie and family and all of her family. I’m sorry no one was able to console her in her loss of Theo. I know he was her soulmate. Kellie was great to work with. She was always so nice to everyone and never talked bad about anyone. I loved her “quirkiness”. She will be greatly missed. Rest in peace Kellie.