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Merrium Charmaine “Mum Mum” Buchheit

September 22, 1931 - September 2, 2023

Merrium Charmaine “Mum Mum” Buchheit, age 91, formerly of Lewes, DE, left this world on Saturday, September 2, 2023, to be reunited with the love of her life, John Paul Buchheit, Jr.

Born in Pasadena, Maryland on September 22, 1931, she was the daughter of the late Edward Charles and Mildred Leona Harman. Charmaine’s childhood was of humble beginnings working on the family farm where she gained her strong will, her hard work ethic, and her love for all animals. Many stories were told of her beloved pets she had throughout her life, from “Billy” the goat, “Pearl” the cat, and “Michelle” the French poodle.

Charmaine’s earthly life was one of love and compassion.  She raised three children with her loving husband, John Paul, in Pasadena, Maryland. In addition, she had it in her heart to take in foster children who she treated as family, as Charmaine was all about family.  She loved her family dearly and hosted the best holiday parties at her house. Charmaine loved to cook and bake; her crabcake recipe has been used in the family restaurant, Crabby Dicks, and has been enjoyed by many. She loved to travel at a moment’s notice and was adventurous with her fashion and style. Charmaine made the most of her life and has left a great impact on the people she leaves behind and the lives which she touched.

In addition to her parents, Charmaine was preceded in death by her loving husband, John Paul Buchheit, Jr. She is survived by her two daughters, Deborah Smith and Paula Buchheit; her son, John Paul Buchheit III; 4 grandchildren; 4 great-grandchildren; her German Shepherd, Miss Cooter Brown; and her Cockatoo of 50 years, Casper.

A visitation for family and friends will be held from 11:00 am until 12:00 pm on Wednesday, September 6, 2023, at St. Paul’s R.C. Church, 209 Washington Street, Delaware City, DE, where a Mass of Christian burial will be offered at 12:00 pm. A graveside service for family and friends will begin at 2:30 pm on Thursday, September 7, 2023, at Glen Haven Memorial Park, 7231 Ritchie Highway, Glen Burnie, MD.


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30 Condolences for Merrium Charmaine “Mum Mum” Buchheit

  • Love you forever Mum Mum!

  • Sorry to hear of your passing. You will be missed dearly.

  • So very sorry for the loss of your vibrant, wonderful beautiful mother you’ve made many memories with her and that will carry you through the tough times. Blessings to all the family and friends.

  • I was so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. You were blessed to have had a wonderful relationship with her. Cherish all your memories. Sorry I will not be able to attend the service because I’m on vacation. Sending love and hugs!

  • God has taken a talented wonderful woman and will surely miss her smile and charm. Love and prayers to everyone.

  • Sending my sincere condolences to the entire family. May sweet memories help to heal the loss of such a wonderful soul.

  • So sorry for the loss of your matriarch, I would’ve loved to have met her & hear stories of the past. The opening line was so beautifully written, I could see John greeting Mum Mum at the pearly gates with a smile & saying, “I’ve missed you!”

    Merrium Charmaine “Mum Mum” Buchheit, left this world to be reunited with the love of her life, John Paul Buchheit, Jr.

  • I loved your zest for life, your snazzy style and your love and commitment to your family. You loved your John-John. You were also Britt’s mum-mum. Thank you for loving her she loved you too!!!

  • As a child, my favorite memory was going to the Buchheits for a weekend on the bay. We would catch crabs on the dock and Charmaine would cook them for us. The entire family was always so fun and wonderful to us. Thanks for the memories. RIP Charmaine. We love you.
    The Rosemans

  • My condolences and prayers to your family. She was a joy to be around. Always had everyone laughing. She said what ever she had to say. May she rest in peace. Hugs

  • To the Bucheit family our thoughts and prayers are with all of you and your family. Love Always Mary June, Lisa, and Joe

  • Please accept my deepest sympathy at the passing of your mother and grandmother.

  • Sending Love, prayers and condolences to all the family. Keep all those beautiful memories of you mom in your heart
    Rip Ms Char
    From The Loveland Family

  • Our hearts break for all of you. Sending our love💜

  • So sorry thoughts and prayers to all 🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • May your memories of your Mom bring you comfort during this hard time in your life . We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers .

  • so sorry for your loss John ..”Mum Mum” was a great lady

  • John I am so very sorry to hear about your Mom. She will be missed alot. U are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • My heart is broken for you all. Big big hugs your way.

  • John , Jack and I are so very sorry for your loss. I know how close you were with her. She was a beautiful special woman. Sending lots of prayers to you and your family.

  • In celebration of a life well lived. May you now rest easy. Deb and Bo Rebstock.

  • Thinking of you and your family. Much love to you John and Dale

  • John, Debbie and family……….our sincere sympathy. Please know that keeping her memory alive will help you get through these rough times!

  • John, Debbie Dale and family
    My condolence I’m so sorry 🙏

  • My heart goes out to John and the family

  • Thank you Char, I’ll cherish our time together forever. I miss you tho. I love you so much.
    That girl💕

  • To the Buchhite Family,So sorry for your loss of a extraordinary lady.
    Char will be missed of all who knew her. I especially will miss her visits to Crabby’s. RIP beautiful lady. Hugs and prayers to the family.

  • What a beautiful tribute for your Mother. I remember her laugh and great cooking. Thank you for sharing her with me over the years and those wonderful Thanksgiving dinners! She was so blessed to have such wonderful children whom cherished her immensely! Wonderful family and I’m so blessed to know them. Char will always be in our hearts, thoughts and prayers!

  • John, Dale and family, Thinking of you all at this difficult time. rest in paradise beautiful lady. cherish the memories. love and peace to you all.

  • John and Dale,
    I am so sorry for your loss. We were never fortunate enough to meet your Mom, but I know she did a beautiful job with you and if her heart is like yours, I know she touched a lot of lives!
    Thinking of you and your family.
    Joel and Kim